5 Signs That It’s Time to Leave Your Nanny JobDecember 18, 2012 | in Nanny
Knowing when it’s the right time to leave your nanny job is a tough decision. Because you work in such an intimate setting, the issues that influence whether you go or stay are very personal. Here are some questions to ask yourself when making this decision.
Am I happy most of the time? Every nanny job has its ups and downs. Like any other relationship, the nanny/family relationship is always changing. Sometimes you’ll get along really well with your employers and sometimes they’ll drive you crazy, both of which are to be expected. However if you’re impatient, frustrated or angry with your employers more than you’re happy with them, it’s time to either solve the issues between you or leave the position. As much as you may try, it’s impossible to be unhappy in your job for much of the time and not let the quality of your work be affected. Because of this, it’s not only in your best interest to get back to a happy place, it’s also in the best interest of the child you care for.
Does this job still meet my needs? Sometimes it’s the right choice to quit a good nanny job. Your needs change over time, and if your job is no longer able to meet your needs, it might be time to find one that does. You might want to earn more money, but you’re at the top rate your employers can afford. You might want to stop working 12 hour days and have more time for your own family in the evenings. You might love your school age charges to pieces, but long to work with infants again. You might want to take on the challenge of learning new skills in a household management position. It’s especially hard to leave a good position because the emotional bonds with the family are so strong that it can feel like a betrayal. However, you can continue to have a close relationship with both the parents and the child after you’ve left. Yes, it will be different, but it can be just as rewarding.
Am I doing the best job I can? Sometimes the job you’re in just isn’t a good match for your personality, passion or skill set. You may like your boss as a person, but find her need to micromanage you throughout the day causes constant friction in your relationship. You may love your charge deeply, but you don’t have the training or experience needed to effectively handle his developmental delays. You may have a strong background in and passion for the Waldorf method of teaching, yet your employers have no interest in it. When a job isn’t a good match for you, it doesn’t allow you to grow professionally, it doesn’t keep you interested and challenged, and it doesn’t allow you to be the best nanny you can be.
Have I really tried to fix the issue that’s bothering me? Many nannies are uncomfortable with talking with their employers about problems. Instead they avoid them, hoping they’ll go away or that their hints are picked up on, or they’ll just suffer in silence. Unfortunately, the end result is that the problem continues to grow and grow until it destroys the employment relationship. If you’re having a problem with your employer, have you genuinely tried to work through it with her? Have you explained how you’re feeling and what you’d like to see happen? Have you listened openly to your employer’s feelings and feedback? Have you worked together to come up with a solution that will work for both sides? If you haven’t taken these steps, you don’t really know if the problem is reason enough to leave your job. Before making that final decision, put in the time and energy to see if the issue can be resolved. Many times, with open and honest discussion, things that seem insurmountable in the beginning can be overcome.
Am I just burned out and ready to move on? Sometimes there’s not a tangible, specific reason you want or need to leave your job. Sometimes you’re just bored, tired of your job, and ready for a new challenge and opportunity. From the outside, there isn’t any good reason to leave. But inside, you know you’re ready. You know it’s time. It’s important to listen to your instincts when you’re struggling with these feelings. Passion, enthusiasm, and commitment are all essential to being a quality caregiver. When you lose those things, you aren’t able to provide the high level of care you want to and that your charge deserves.
Deciding when to leave your nanny job is a very personal decision. Take time for honest self-reflection before taking the leap, but be true to what is best for you in the long run.← 10 Signs That Your Nanny May Be Suffering From Depression | 30 Blogs with the Best Ideas for Organizing Kids’ Bedrooms →
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